I Am Not What You Think I Am

Is It Possible To Be A Monk?

“I am not what I think I am. I am not what you think I am. I am what I think you think I am.” – Charles Horton Cooley

I am listening to a book by Jay Shetty called ‘Think Like a Monk’ and I would never have normally picked this off the virtual shelf in Audible but it was recommended to me and I know Jay from social media.

What I didn’t know was that he was a monk. So far I have not got past Chapter 1 and I can’t stop thinking about this book. I’ve been offering to take Bella out just so I can pop my AirPods in and stroll along while learning ‘how to live like a monk’. Jay says we are all monks, or could be, and still live our day to day lives.


Think of that quote again, ‘I am what I think you think I am’. Isn’t it true that we place our actions on the basis of the expectations we think others have of us? We spend too much time thinking about what other people think we are and adjusting our actions to suit their expectations, rather than acting like the person we are.

My life coach and one of the most amazing and important people in my life Lori Dodson would say to me “Sam mind your own business, you have no business worrying about those people. Don’t spend your time thinking about what they are doing, you should be minding your own”.

So what would life be like if we minded our own business, I guess it would be more monk-like. We would live in our own moment, no caring about what others think of our appearance, actions and even what we think about them. If we did this with wild abandonment then maybe it would be a life of chaos, but in truth, I think it would be freeing.

Imagine that for a moment, giving away the burden of worrying about what others think. Imagine what you would say or do instead, who you would affect in a positive away. You could stop your car, roll the window down and tell the child in the street that their rainbow glitter skirt brought a smile to your face and thank them for wearing it. That’s a true story, it took me a minute to be brave and be conceived as that ‘crazy red-headed lady in the big white SUV’. Their parent thanked me as I wound my window back up. But the beam of pride on their face gave me chills, they had been brave and chosen to wear such a bright bold outfit and I had justified that choice for them. Who knows, they may now grow up to become a fashion icon, choosing to step away from the norm.

Why don’t we do more of this? Spend more time appreciating the uniqueness in other people and letting them know when they have made us happy, instead of judging them based on our lack of brave abandonment.

Today I am what I think I am because I think I am bloody brilliant. I am not what I think you think I am, because what you think of me is none of my business.

If you follow the secret philosophies at all you will also know yourself because you think you are as well. So today I am the best at what I do and I can help you be the best at what you can do.

Now how is that for a statement?

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